Freeing Our Inner Desires

Manic Times with the High Riders

Manic Times with the High Riders

There is power in your voice.

In fact, some would boldly state that your voice is the vibration of your soul.

So, considering this, is it any wonder why it hurts you physically and emotionally when you don’t express your truth? Even in the simplest of conversations – which may at the time seem banal, redundant, or ridiculous – this awareness arms you with the knowledge that what you choose to speak can change your world. In truth, what you choose to avoid speaking is just the same.

Notice how often you have to clear your throat. Notice, perhaps, how often it is sore, dry, raspy or otherwise congested. Your body is manifesting physically what it’s like to hold it in; to stifle your own personal song, and to squash your spirit, again and again.

In my experience, I know it’s easy to practice resistance of personal expression, and I know it well. But those who know me, know that I don’t often hold back an honest thought, because to do so, would do us both a disservice. Our society and culture puts an odd amount of power into the hands of this idea of “politeness”, and by extension “political correctness”. Thing is, filtering out an honest thought, based on what you believe someone else may interpret from it, is an exercise in head-against-wall-bashing, metaphorically speaking. How can you possibly know what someone will really think about what you’re about to say, especially if your intention is only to share your true thoughts? Even if you intend to humble someone with your verbal prowess, the sting may really be very short-lived, but the reverberating effect profound. (That being said, you may also realize that it was not they who needed the humbling, really…)

Let it “come out wrong” and in the same instant, laugh at how easily the tongue (read: language limitations) can betray you. Laugh at how strange the words sound, even though they were once stewing on the inside. Diffuse the bomb by negating its creation. But, instantly know as well, that the next time will be easier, as the mechanics of pure, simple and unfiltered expression refine and define themselves whenever you choose to become genuine. There is little to no effort required once you lose the need to cloak your meaning in pretty words or unripened emotions. Just say what you mean, and in the spirit of community, your listeners will understand.

Best of all, you’ll be one step closer to getting what you really wanted in the first place. –tb

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Freeing Our Inner Desires
Using Our Outside Voice

Each of us has developed an internal filtering process that helps us choose which parts of our constant inner monologues get voiced outside of our heads. Sometimes the choice is based on what we consider to be polite or appropriate, using subtlety instead of directness to try to get our point across. Other times the choice is made based on our expectations of the other person and what we feel they should know about us, our feelings, and our needs. But our best chance of getting what we need is to communicate specifically by converting our inner voice to our outside voice.

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2 Responses to “Freeing Our Inner Desires”

  1. Aderyn says:

    There’s speaking your mind, and then there’s speaking your mind with tact and consideration.

    I think women usually have an advantage to gage someone’s reaction to their words.. people are largely predictable that way.

    Truth is the most important thing to me.. but I think kindness and consideration runs alongside truth very closely

    Its just basic human social skills. you can still speak your truth, but just means thinking a little longer on how you present it.. makes a huge big difference to the listeners turning away or wanting to know more.

    my pov… :)

    interesting post though Trance.. sounds very *you*

    • tb says:

      Indeed. I think that social skills and other such conditioning is a topic of discussion in and of itself.

      There’s a lot to be said about not taking anything personally, in the way that most of us are unfortunately trained to do these days. Therein lies the difficulty with people just being easy about saying what they want to say, without worrying about such things as tact and consideration, because those two aspects of our culture are quite relative, and only come into the field of view if you’ve also learned various versions of being “polite” and “politically correct”, etc. The language is already limited enough, so having to add filters in, based on what you presume someone else may or may not feel or react to immediately limits the amount you’re able to express yourself, truly, and truthfully.

      If we all, however, learn to develop and expand our inherent abilities on an intuitive level, then there’d be no need for such filters based on words and language, because we’d just sense and feel it, and it’d be a natural extension and improvement in how we communicate. Unfortunately, much of the mainstream, as far as public education and understanding goes, has dumbed down and severely inhibited our truer, deeper interconnectivity, and thus put heavy dampers on how we talk to each other – both in close circumstances, and to complete “strangers”…