if we keep expecting them to change, what we must expect is to keep hurting [ourselves]. it’s a tricky thing, but not so complex.
our culture is orientated heavily toward immediate gratification, with an emphasis on what’s in it for me? and me first! – essentially a gross imbalance in the idea of entitlement. their uses are varied, and they can be subtle, though nonetheless cumulative in their negative vibe, eroding genuine connection and isolating our hearts.
these notions have no place in healthy relationships. nor does martyrdom, which is the polar opposite, emotionally; the uneasy mismatch of unworthiness and self-sacrifice:
if i can give enough of myself, maybe they’ll change…
if they can give enough of themselves, maybe i’ll change…
when we both give authentically of who we truly are, we’re free to fully, honestly be ourselves.
where there is space for genuine expression, there is harmonious spirit. allow for love’s simplicity to bring heart-centered clarity. challenge the old, painful habits and impulses (ie. jumping to conclusions, assuming the worst first). question the need to complicate communication. breathe into the healing that’s always available at the speed of thought. know you are safe, always.
we are more. we are enough.
love your life,