When we look at someone, we instantly process their appearance, primarily on a subconscious level. We may find attraction, based on what is essentially an algorithm we’ve been instilled with and has itself evolved throughout the countless influences and circumstances we grew up around. Our parents, or primary guardians, are inevitably the strongest influences in what draws (or repels) us, naturally. It’s emotional, too, and magnetic. Yet, beyond the surface, what we cannot usually see with our naked eyes affects us, too.
Tag: psychology
The more you move into and exist from within the energies of surrender, acceptance, appreciation and gratitude, the less those clingy, sticky, life-sucking energies can stay with you, attach to you, and have any sort of influence over you. You become slippery and unattainable to those harsh, vampiric, negative, spiny urchins of malevolence and you regain your creative resources.
It’s not always easy being a human in this world. It’s always changing, and there is a lot of damage (psychic, physical, karmic, spiritual), with generations of unbalanced energies to process and recapitulate. All this complexity, unfortunately, expresses itself in how humans treat themselves, other humans, and the earth—thus creating cycles of trauma.
You’re not finished, and you’ll never get it all done, but you have already succeeded. You’ve pursued your mission, in one way or another, and while you certainly feel you haven’t done nearly enough—that you could be of better service, that you could be more at ease, and more profitable or productive—those ideas are based on industry, not on spirit.
If you’re like me, you have a tendency to be aware of, or to feel responsible for, the feelings and emotions of others. This can be a disorienting perspective, because you get into the habits of compromising, accommodating, and catering to their needs, at the cost of your own wellbeing.
For much of my life, I’ve done this in unhealthy ways.