Love is a given, as is grace.
The need to endure pain, to struggle, to soldier on with the scars, is a symptom of age-old dysfunctional (misogynistic) ideas on the battles for, and control of power — conditioned and adopted within ourselves, and ubiquitous within malevolent societal constructs — designed to suppress energy and flow, depress emotions, and oppress the spirit and creative nature of humanity.
The sheer violent nature of most scientific, economic, political and religious practices is likely example enough; rudimentary, unnatural, and forced.
No, life is a given, as is true power — authenticity in motion. True power is utterly formless and graceful and its only weapon is silence.