There’s a saying, that if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.
A lot of us live this, or a variation of it, often pretending to be OK with it, primarily, in our relationships . . . and the most debilitating one often being the one with ourselves.
Some variations, perhaps:
If you don’t stand up for yourself, you’ll fall to your knees for anyone.
If you don’t know who you are, you’ll be told who to be.
If you don’t stand for something, you don’t stand for anything; you don’t count.
If you don’t have confidence, you’ll be intimidated by strength.
If you don’t make a commitment, you’ll waffle in perpetual indecision.
If you don’t find a purpose, you don’t have meaning.
As we can see, there is a lot of material to work with, energetically, spiritually, mentally, physically . . . How often do we employ these tactics, fallbacks, and restrictions to fit in, or feel good? How often do we settle for less than the ideal, to feel wanted? How often do we sell out to make money? How often do we heed the seemingly passionate words of others, instead of listening to the truth in our hearts? How often do we don masks and pleasantries to be polite, correct, accepted, pandering, favoured, or . . . loved?
There’s a pervasive superficiality in our culture that can leave a bad taste in your mouth, unless you employ the oft abused tools of deflecting, projecting, shaming, and gossip. We tend to hide behind the weakest of social capabilities to cope with our perceived insignificance and rampant insecurity.
Sadly, these are all joy-destroying and soul-sucking postures that keep things floating somewhere around normal, but only just above numb. If that’s good enough for you, it’d probably be a good time to re-evaluate your motivations — not, however, to dive into self-reproach and judgment.
Live, listen, learn:
We compromise too much to belong.
We suppress too much, to feel safe.
We defend too much, to be vulnerable.
We forget, that being and living from our trueness defines, attracts, and manifests that which is of a parallel construct, resonance, and nature. Or, our reality reflects that which we are, not which we want to be, or pretend to be.
In every moment, in every circumstance, we afford ourselves a new opportunity to choose the better, aligned, simple choice — but not necessarily the easy one.
No one wants to be lonely, but no one is ever alone. Close your eyes, breathe into your heart, and you’ll know this. You’ll remember; you are safe. You are this, and much more. You are enough. You are important. You are integral to this Earthly dance. You are an intrinsically unique song, beautiful as the wind, playful as time.
You, be you.
Love your life,