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What Really Is There to Overcome?

Ever since we’ve had psychoanalysis, psychotherapy, pharmaceuticals and grandiose illusions of purpose, meaning and happiness, we’ve had stigmatization and violent prejudice toward those who don’t sort nicely into categories of “normal” behavior. We’ve also dehumanized vast swathes of societies in favor of political, ideological, economical or dogmatic ignorance and stupidity.

The Through Line

There’s an element of our psychology that connects through all that we do, an integral, organic essence that carries forward — zigzagging as a dramatic line chart, dotted at significant events across the years of a lifetime. The y-axis, naturally, indicates emotional impact. 

Deferring the Ideal Self

You can’t wait around to start living your best, most inspired life. Waiting to start exercising or cleaning your house regularly, flossing your teeth, getting that PhD, or putting away a percentage of your income for something, invariably defers other things that you won’t think are related to — or connected with — both your ordinary and ambitious goals. 

Face-Flattening Exercises

Like many lifelong-learners, I’ve suffered through periods of outright analysis paralysis. I’d study and absorb everything about what I was really excited to do (or be), what I wanted to do (or be), or what I was interested in maybe trying one day (to be)… It really never ends. And today, there’s an absolute glut of information and resources at our fingertips that can and will keep us floating around in existential limbo forever. Undoubtedly, I learned and personally grew the most by actually doing something. In hindsight, I should have resisted a complained less and embraced the process.

On Building a Highway

There’s a psychological trick we may unintentionally disrupt the flow in our life with, only because, as per usual, we’re not aware that we’re doing it. In fact, we employ a lot of paradoxical or conflicting programs all the time, so it’s no wonder that we often find ourselves flailing about or otherwise overwhelmed, confused, frustrated, and stumped. This inevitably leads to a variation of the blame/shame game, and more often than not, turns inward.