They say don’t settle; it’s better to be alone than to compromise. There is truth in that, and there is weight.
Tag: relationships
It is never easy to trust someone with your pain, and trying to persuade someone to trust you with theirs is unrealistic. These things take time, and when we misinterpret or misunderstand the words or actions of those we care about, we often draw negative conclusions. In these moments, it is best to simply pause, trust and hold space, and be easy about it.
We often dismiss our efforts, particularly the small ones. We negate our positive impact on others’ lives because of how we see (or value) ourselves and frame our worldview; we color the canvas with our preconceptions, paradigmatic programming, and ideas and beliefs about how we presume others perceive us, our worth, or our contribution.
Why worry? Because of fear. Fear comes in thousands of different shades of grey. It’s a numbing palette of colors that darkens a sunny day or intensifies the gloom of an overcast sky. Fear, in the colors of worry, is especially tragic.
My parents were never able to provide the emotional support or conscious partnership that each required from the other. They valued things differently. They certainly communicated in different love languages. They were never able to express these concerns. They had children, so they pushed through — but this, too, in my opinion, was a mistake. They came from a different generation, and from a different culture, one marked by struggle, endurance, perseverance, self-sacrifice, and, unfortunately, a deep-seated quiet desperation.