We break patterns by stepping beyond the familiar — beyond family expectations, old versions of ourselves, and the noise of a world engineered to divide and distract. Real connection, the kind that wakes the heart and steadies the spirit, starts when we stop letting “them” define our reality. A reminder to reclaim your agency, trust your instincts, and hold a different image of what’s possible.
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There’s a distinct difference between talking to those who know you — through living in a similar environment, or through work, school, and routine — and finding someone outside that circle who doesn’t carry pre-conceived notions. They don’t assume they already understand you based on past versions of who you were, nor do they project emotional or psychological barriers built through years or decades of interaction. It’s a fresh perspective, even if most of our lives play out in very similar ways, though we sometimes wish it were otherwise.
The more you get to know the world, read widely, or listen to voices from different cultures and societies across the world, the more sameness you find. It doesn’t matter if it’s Canada, America, Mexico, Sweden, China, or Russia. The overriding script is largely the same, with the same players at the highest levels operating in the shadows — pulling levers, pushing agendas, and manipulating what appears, on the ground, to be an organic unfolding. It simply isn’t so.
Yet we do have far more agency and influence over our individual expression than we often realize. And that includes whom we allow into that sacred, intimate space. This can be a gift to ourselves, or it can lead to pain, suffering, and tragedy. We all want the same things in the end, regardless of how we phrase, encode, explain, or present them. So it’s useful to set aside the idea that there is any true originality in our intentions and aspirations in this one short life. But how we get there matters — how we move through the intricacies, impulses, intuitions, and ingredients of the unfoldment; the revelations; and ultimately, the remembering. Whether we’ve been here only a few times or thousands before, being in this present form, at this moment, amid this level of fakery, manipulation, distortion, deception, and corruption, isn’t accidental.
So when it comes to inviting partners, co-creators, collaborators, and those to whom we grant access to our most private and precious spaces, it matters. And it may serve us better to look beyond the strictly familiar, recognizable, and known. But again, there’s no true novelty in the human story. Objectivity only goes so far, because we’re all built from the same stuff, influenced by the same underlying constructs, paradigms, ideologies, and philosophies. Unless someone grew up entirely dissociated from the modern world, we’ll always find familiar ground.
Some of us thrive on making new friends, finding new family, and routinely breaking out of our comfort zones to stretch ourselves — defining and redefining who and what we are from day to day, year to year. Others prefer a slower burn, a gradual, granular evolution toward our truth, with far more contemplation and only minor reconfiguration along the way. It’s jarring to disturb the tenuous, fragile balance we imagine we’ve achieved, so introducing the untested and unknown can feel terrifying. But remember — nobody is so different from you or me. The lie of the prevailing zeitgeist is that relationships, partnering, love, sex, and marriage are more impossible than ever. This is nonsense. We’re designed to couple, to create, to have children, to live out desires, fail, stand up, fail again, and stand again — stumbling forward as individuals, but far more powerfully as couples, parents, grandparents, mentors, and community builders.
The lie is that we’re more fragmented than ever. It’s all in the mind. It’s all in the marketing, in corrupted institutional and state propaganda funded by those who parasitize everything and enforce predatory signals, stories, and social dysfunction because they know nothing else. It’s the outgrowth of money, materialism, and the psychopathic reduction of the human species into living capital. Be thankful you’re not one of those sick, twisted losers. They’ve lost everything human about themselves and create only destruction wherever they point their gaze — their armies, bankers, priests, and politicians.
We have a purpose for being here, or we wouldn’t have come back — if that’s even the right way to think of it. There’s nothing to solve, no one to save, and no way to alter the trajectory of the marauding machinations of murderous Empire. In simplest terms, we’re just passing through. This doesn’t mean it’s all for nothing. Quite the opposite. But keep it in perspective. Love for the right reasons. Make love for even better ones.
We’re here to build alternatives, parallels, and the things that will persist after “they” destroy everything constructed in their artificial, material, spiritually void image. They’ll self-annihilate, and unfortunately, a portion of the collective may be dragged into the fires with them. But remember — the real human, the genuine soul, is untouchable, immortal, and continues beyond this grand illusion of earthbound existence. Live now, and be amused by the strangeness and chaos they create, knowing you’ll never come to true harm, however much it may feel like it.
Nearly every headline is a lie. Nearly every film and show is laced with epistemic and ontological poison that will lead you astray if you aren’t paying attention. The product placements, the symbology, the artifacts of ancient psychological and emotional manipulation are ever-present. Every scene, every stage, is filled with subtleties that shape you in ways you may not notice — until you do. Listen to the odd conspiracy researcher now and then, but don’t fall into cynicism, paranoia, or fear. Truth always wins, but it’s the turtle, not the hare. Deception happens at the speed of thought, and for most of us, our speed of thought has been dramatically slowed — to the point where we can’t sense, in real time, just how much we’re being programmed and conditioned.
This is why connecting with someone outside your family, routines, and common patterns can break the spell. It engages a different part of your mind and heart, and awakens a quiet aspect of your spirit. We all need to jolt ourselves from apathy, ennui, and the epidemic of quiet quitting. The fatigue is real, and we see how it’s unfolding across the world as overall happiness is disappearing, and birth rates plummet. It’s increasingly difficult to feel excited about anything, especially close and intimate relationships, because the onslaught isn’t letting up. We’re assaulted emotionally, spiritually, cognitively, physically, chemically, sonically, electronically, psychically, and energetically. In truth, it’s all energetic — but some of us notice certain layers or elements sooner than others, and that awareness sharpens our sensitivity to the rest.
But the essential elements are also the most fundamental. The masculine and feminine aspects of our nature have been under assault for generations — likely much longer. Men and women have been in the line of fire for so long that we now default to turning on each other. That’s the lie. Men need women. Women need men. Humanity survives only if men love, respect, and honor women and women love, respect, and honor men. The yin-yang is no joke. Embracing our deep, organic male and female nature is a superpower, not a weakness. Unfortunately, those with the greatest access, assets, and influence have perverted every institution, government, corporation, and industry with corrosive ideology and divisive gender politics. We must see it for what it is and turn away from the noise. We must reclaim our agency, authority, and humanity from the creepy, greedy clutches of the parasitic mind-contagions of the world. They’re everywhere.
Perhaps it’s not an entirely orchestrated collapse of civilization, but it will lead us to the brink if we passively go along — engaging in identity politics, succumbing to toxic ideologies, and supporting a system that was never working in our favor.
Connect in real life. Be unprepared, uncertain, unscripted, and curious. There is no technological solution for the problems technology continues to create. There is no governmental solution for the problems governments perpetuate. There is no monetary solution for a system built on monetary primacy. We change the world only by changing our image of it. If we allow “them” to dictate terms, boundaries, possibilities, and conditions of reality, momentum stays in their favor.
But if we hold a different image — share it, spread it, live it, embody it — the paradigm shifts exponentially toward different possibilities.
We can speed up our thought and recalibrate our sense-making at any time. One choice, one step, one loving embrace. One connection, one laugh, one smile. One true moment to tap the original source. It’s always here.
Solvitur ambulando.