If you’re conflicted about a relationship, career, or life choice (or anything else that’s weighing on you, influencing your decisions, causing energetic stagnation, and making you wince when others make suggestions for you), you must be willing to sit with it, explore it, and define your reasoning, beliefs, and perceptions.
You must be willing to be completely open, honest, and (possibly painfully) authentic with yourself. Tears and screams are cathartic! Drum circles, acting classes, martial arts, and tribal/interpretive dance are also options. The goal is to move your energy. Utilize your energy. Use your energy to create something.
Be willing to crack the egg rather than trying your hardest to keep it together by pampering, swaddling, and protecting the illusion of a functional existence. Notice when you’ve become overly critical of who you are, what you do, and how you do it. Take note of when you’ve developed this attitude toward others. You’re clearly skirting the larger issue, and it’s time to listen to the deepest part of yourself. You will injure yourself less, both figuratively and literally.
Painting your egg with the ideas of settling for what doesn’t feel right or appeasing the opinions and expectations of those you care about and respect can harden your heart. Your heart does not have to be caged, squashed, tempered, or timid.
Your truth will never allow you to get away with something you know is not true to and for your soul.
Love your life.