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Pain, Patience, and Presence

Audio Version (music by Sergii Pavkin)

It is never easy to trust someone with your pain, and trying to persuade someone to trust you with theirs is unrealistic. These things take time, and when we misinterpret or misunderstand the words or actions of those we care about, we often draw negative conclusions. In these moments, it is best to simply pause, trust and hold space, and be easy about it.

You cannot build walls on a freshly poured foundation. If you pour it during the winter or in the rain, it will take even longer to set. So, what? What’s the hurry? Anything worth doing is worth taking the time to do correctly, and lasting relationships can only be built on a strong foundation.

We live in a culture of instant gratification and widespread dopamine addiction. As a result, in close relationships, we obsess, overthink, and seek constant validation. Love and healing require a stronger presence. Trust and meaningful communication necessitate patience over impulsivity. Our society is overly rushed, racing to go nowhere, and it has degraded nearly everything sacred.

If we claim to be seekers of wholeness, we cannot dismiss any aspect of our story, nor can we presume to fill in the gaps in another’s. Don’t just scan, skim, or speed read. The cover provides only an initial impression; the foreword adds color; and the synopsis teases, but the substance remains hidden throughout the book. Take your time with this. Read, live, pause, reflect, live, and then read some more.

Love your life