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An Unfulfilled Romance

Audio Version (music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi)

Most of us have probably experienced or are currently dealing with aspects of unfulfilled or broken romance — with life, with a partner, or with a dreamy, dream, dream… fantasy.

Passion is at the heart of what drives us. Those who dive in, grab the rope, pull themselves up to the surface, and dare to ski on the waves live it to the fullest almost every day. Others, perhaps the vast majority, dabble, suppress, ignore, or avert their gaze and swim with the distractions and busyness as often as possible in order to avoid the aches, pains, frustrations, depression, or other side effects of hearing the music but being terrified of learning to dance.

Tripping and falling are part of the art, don’t you know?

There is an eternal fire beneath the physical matter of things. Everything in our reality is composed of energetic constructs that are glued and bound together by timeless consciousness, which makes it all worthwhile. Stagnation is impossible in our universe. Thus, any attempt to subvert, compress, or otherwise reduce the flow of life will inevitably result in (perceived) negative outcomes. It will show up in our bodies or on our paths. Life necessitates expansion, or we would simply cease to exist in this time and place.

In this day and age, there are tremendous changes taking place. So much happens without your conscious awareness that who you are today may not recognize yourself from a year or a decade ago. A visit to an old neighborhood you haven’t seen in years can be quite extraordinary. In an ever-changing world, we may struggle greatly to discern meaning based on biased ideas and ubiquitous industrial capitalism. Outdated materialistic influences lose significance and become inadequate.

And so, we create events and circumstances to engage in something meaningful. And we rinse and repeat. Drama is self-inflicted as a means of avoiding the real issues of life that we are usually afraid to confront. Then, when we are disappointed, disillusioned, hurt, taken advantage of, empty, and resentful, that fire is diminished, and a part of us is relegated to the shadows. We have wounds to lick, so back off, world!

We tend to err on the side of wanting, or, more commonly, needing. It is an unbalanced act of quiet desperation, but it does not have to be this way. As multidimensional, divine light benders, we perform best when things are generally neutral, particularly with our expansive gifts such as intuition. There are always positives and negatives. We are generally conditioned to focus on the negative (in fact, our brains are literally wired in this way) because it is a familiar and effective behavior. Positive aspects require deliberate effort and are therefore more rewarding in the long run. To circumvent our biology and conditioned psychology, if necessary, requires conscious choice, moment by moment.

We are the power. We choose how, what, and who affects us.

Feeling unfulfilled is great! It’s only a feeling. It is a barometer. It proves that there is more, or that we are missing something. There’s an opportunity. It’s also rendered moot when we look at it through the lens of gratitude; while that lacking feeling is frequently triggered by things, experiences, and memories of the past, that trigger, too, can be reprogrammed. If we can choose to see the feeling as a fleeting indicator, we can heed the wisdom that each and every circumstance is offering us right now.

Love your life.

self” from the Fleshwound album