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Inadequacy is the Lie

We live in a world that constantly invites us to measure ourselves against external standards — our wealth, success, appearance, relationships — but none of it truly defines who we are. These illusions are mirrors, reflecting back the stories we’ve been told to believe, not the truth of our infinite potential.

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There are countless ways to feel inadequate: career, bank account, body, vocabulary, car, home, friends, community — anything. Outward appearances provide endless ammunition for self-doubt and spiritual contraction.

But these so-called realities are, in truth, mere apparitions — tricks of light. We fool ourselves into believing in them, and by adhering to social and cultural programming, we perpetuate the illusion.

Modern life is full of noise designed to keep us distracted and disengaged. Advertising and consumer culture thrive on this disconnection. Amid it all, it’s up to us to stop feeding these illusions our life force. The more we step back, the clearer it becomes: what we carry within shapes and frames what we see without.

Yes, it’s important to connect the dots of awareness, to understand the experiences that sow feelings of inadequacy. But true power lies in the moment we create choice. Life offers constant reminders — subtle or glaring — that love is always present, patient, and nonjudgmental, waiting for us to notice.

What persists in our lives reflects what we continue to carry, whether we’re conscious of it or not. We can remain tethered to the victim state, but life holds far more for those willing to move beyond it. The sooner we do, the better — because life is short.

Time and again, we discover that when we confront a fear or release a false belief, we recognize a truth that feels surprisingly simple: “That wasn’t so bad.” The universe supports whatever we focus on, whether it’s anxiety, fear, and futility or ease, grace, and joy. It’s always saying “yes” — the question is, to what?

Every emotion is a signal from our higher self, offering instantaneous feedback. Each stumble and setback is an opportunity to see past the mirror and reclaim our truth. We simply need to train ourselves to bring more presence into those moments.

Inadequacy may feel real, but it is not universal truth. It is an invitation to shed the illusions that obscure who we are.

Let go. Let love.

Temet nosce

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The Hidden Power” from The Reluctant Pilgrim, Part I