We’re talking, sharing opinions, arguing and debating, but we’re not listening. We’re absolutely not listening to each other.
When we think about compatibility, we may think it’s about always getting along, or always being comfortable and easy with our partner. I don’t think that’s realistic. No relationship is a cure-all for our wounds and wantings.
Echoes of our childhood carry on throughout our lives without the careful and rigorous work of recognition, acceptance, mirroring, integrating and elevating ourselves into the world beyond those self-centered boundaries and limitations.
We’ve all peed in the pool. We’ve all gotten home to realize that no matter how much we scrubbed and rinsed, we still reek of chlorine. That’s how it goes in a society, too. We’re products of our environments, for the most part, regardless of how often we profess to be otherwise. It’s not a conscious thing. It’s an energy thing; a field that permeates the observed and the directly experienced.